Brook is a leading provider of sexual health and wellbeing for young people under 25, and provides RSE workshops and training.

Brook received £7,719,074 in income from government contracts and £654,893 from government grants in the financial year ending March 2019.

According to its Sexual Behaviours Traffic Light Tool for 13-to 17-year-olds, normal behaviour includes “interest in erotica/pornography” and “consenting oral and/or penetrative sex with others of the same or opposite gender who are of similar age and developmental ability”.

On masturbation, the Brook website states:

Masturbation (solo-sex, wanking, playing with yourself, etc.) is stimulating yourself for sexual pleasure. It can be an excellent way to get to know your body and what makes you feel good sexually. Besides being safe and fun, it helps you know how to please yourself so that you can let others know how they can please you.

It is natural and harmless for people of any gender and is a way of exploring your own body that can help you to find out what you like and don’t like sexually.

How to do it: As mentioned, there is no correct way to masturbate. Just touch yourself and see what feels good. Boys and men often rub their penis or hold the shaft of their penis and move their hand up and down, using different rhythms. Lots of boys like touching their testicles or anus and rectum too. Girls and women may use their fingers or a sex toy, like  a vibrator, to rub the area around their clitoris and/or their vagina. When people are masturbating they can get an intense pleasurable feeling which spreads all over their bodies – this is called an orgasm.

On anal sex:

When you have anal sex it’s really important to use a condom – because the lining of the anus is very delicate it can be damaged easily, making it easier for STIs to be transmitted. Also if you are including kissing or licking your partner’s anus as part of sex, it is advisable to gently wash the area first with water and gentle soap. Some infections caused by bacteria and viruses can be passed on through oral to anal sex, for example hepatitis A or E coli.

On gender:

Gender refers to the way in which a person feels and thinks about themselves, and the way they dress, speak or move. This can be different to the ‘sex’ they were given at birth. In other words, you may feel female and have a penis, you may feel male and have a vulva or may feel like a mix of the two.

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